The addiction to living far from yourself

Usually, when dependencies are discussed, experts focus on the components that make up the addictive substance, event, or person. The emphasis is often placed on the elements that generate compulsion — the impulsive and involuntary drive to do something, even when it brings negative consequences to oneself — placing the cause as the primary focus due to its perceived impact on the "victim."

It is true that from a psychoanalytic perspective, various explanations can be found for the tendency to fall into codependency. However, nowadays, the deeper analysis of personal deficiencies, childhood wounds, or repressed emotions offers little resolution to the current problem, which is heavily impacted by the continuous bombardment we are exposed to as a society. From entertainment platforms to the constant use of social media, and the professional competition we face daily — all of these contribute to a growing disconnection from ourselves, a kind of “addiction to living far from our own essence.”

This trend is increasing, especially among those whose anxiety or stress has taken over their everyday emotional state. And it has everything to do with the gap in the connection each person has with themselves. Perhaps only a few, rare individuals are truly free from falling into the kinds of addictions that distance them from their essence.

So, how can I begin to reconnect with myself? What can I do when I feel compelled to make decisions that lead me further and further away from who I am?

Let me tell you a secret: all major problems begin to reveal their solution when we take simple actions. That’s right — when we want to change something that’s already embedded in our lives, we can easily feel overwhelmed if we approach the problem from a macro level, giving too much attention and power to the issue. But when we break it down into smaller parts and stop seeing it as a powerful force, and instead as a set of small, manageable actions, healing becomes much more accessible.

Don’t be afraid to come into contact with yourself — to face what bothers you, what makes you sad, what triggers guilt or shame. And don’t judge yourself for not having done things differently before; sometimes, it’s easier to keep walking with our eyes closed than to face where we really are.

Don’t feel pressured to make a radical or immediate change — that usually doesn’t work. Honor your own rhythm and always remember: you are truly unique, and yes, you are the owner of your own life and happiness. The moment you begin to take even the smallest heart-centered actions, your overall well-being will begin to grow.

With every step and decision you make, stay loyal to your own well-being. Don’t look for signs of your wellness — be the sign.

I hope this article helps you reconnect with yourself, with that wonderful being you are — one who lives, who loves, who enjoys, and who laughs.

If you need support in your personal process, feel free to write to me. I will make space for you.